Would you like to develop intimacy, create new forms of connection and live a more true, attuned, full of life and healthier relationship?
I think everyone wants it, right?
Every relationship is either moving away or moving closer. In some cases the withdrawal seems inevitable and with each passing day the relationship is getting colder and more distant.
But do not worry. You're not alone!
This post will bring you 5 practical behaviors so that your relationship can evolve and re-enter an approaching movement.
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And if you want to check out all 5 behaviors, here it goes ...
1. If you tell a truth, it becomes part of your past ...
... but if you tell a lie, that becomes part of your future.
Lying is what most destroys relationships. Couples do not arrive at separation overnight.
This is the result of the accumulation, day after day, of poorly resolved issues that are being thrown under the carpet and that no one has the courage to touch.
And no relationship is sustained by lies. You have to put the questions on clean plates, speak from the heart and say what's going on inside.
Apologize! Take on your mistakes, betrayals and slips. As difficult as it may be.
I have already witnessed frank conversations that were very painful, but that without certainty, some relationships would be doomed to an eternal cycle of lies and would end in an accurate divorce.
2.Use and abuse assertive and non-violent communication
Avoid using phrases such as: "you are this", "you are that". It is important to periodically have frank, true and authentic conversations. But these conversations cannot become a blame game. It is not just getting in front of the other and throwing all that emotional garbage on top of him.
The idea of assertive communication is to expose your feelings and the facts that, perhaps, led you to feel a certain way. But without trying to impersonate a culprit.
Phrases such as "I felt disrespected at that dinner when that happened", "I felt humiliated when you said that to me", "I felt abandoned on the day you left me for work", "I feel rejected when you do it that ... ”can help our partner to understand what's going on inside us without having to blame him.
Talk about you, of the facts and their feelings. Open up clearly and everything will be easier.
3.Learn to forgive, but do not accept the repetition of the mistake.
Forgiveness is one of the most sacred acts that exists and is the hallmark of those who are really strong. Only the weak cannot forgive.
And when someone opens their hearts, and sincerely repents, there is a very valuable opportunity for reconciliation.
However, when an act of betrayal or something serious is repeated periodically it is necessary put a limit and give an ultimatum to the situation. Otherwise, nothing will ever change.
It takes courage, because there are situations that can no longer be sustained. When someone is disrespectful in a way deliberate and repetitive we need to put an end to it.
Have a frank conversation and use the famous "either go or split".
4. Perform a weekly ritual to be boyfriends.
Many couples suffer from the lack of time to enjoy each other. Whether because of a lot of work or because of the children. But this meeting is very important. And here we suggest that this happens at least once a week.
Sexual intercourse works with a visceral and vital energy in our body. The trivialized or unconscious use of this energy can lead to loss of vitality and trivialization of relationships.
That is why we recommend that you cultivate this energy with great affection, care and attention.
Separate a list of songs, prepare a cozy atmosphere, with low light and date. Preferably, use the tantric techniques that we teach in our Free Workshop or in our Complete Course on Sexuality and Tantric Massage.
We teach him very profound and important practical techniques for those who want to expand their sexuality and develop more loving and pleasurable relationships.
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5-Don't be afraid to ask for help.
If you have tried all of the above recommendations, but communication is not yet taking place ... consider the option of seeking help.
In many cases, even when there is true, respectful and intense communication, a couple may have difficulties in understanding and getting closer.
Perhaps, in these cases, it is important to seek help from a specialist in couples therapy.
He can be an important mediator in this relationship. It can facilitate understanding and create specific dynamics for the maturity and harmony of your relationship.