Premature ejaculation: According to studies by Kinsey 75% of men ejaculate after two minutes of penetration.

Wow!! Is it an alarming number?

Yes and no.

Yes because within the same research Kinsey found that women take between 10 and 20 minutes to reach the peak of pleasure while penetrated. Therefore, if sex is "only penetration", in 75% of heterosexual relationships the woman would not reach orgasm.

No because this is the clear manifestation of the biological factor of maintenance of the species. The faster the man ejaculates, in theory, the faster he "guarantees" the reproduction of the species.

The fact is that most sexual relations of the modern human being are not in search of the reproduction of the species, but in search of pleasure, intimacy, connection ... In other words, it does not make sense to simply accept that this is normal and ready.

It is necessary to evolve. And evolution involves a new way of looking at sex and sexuality.

It is necessary to work with the notion that sex is not just penetration. Sex involves connection, attunement, exchange, delivery, pleasure. And sexuality goes far beyond sex. It involves relationship, gender balance, respect.

What is premature ejaculation?

Let's use the concept of Masters and Johnson about us what is premature ejaculation. For Masters and Johnson, the premature ejaculator is one that, in most relationships, ejaculates before the partner reaches orgasm. This is a concept that brings the notion of respect and equality between the sexes and starts to take into account a point that is usually overlooked: the female orgasm.

Therefore, all expansion and evolution of sex must pass through the development of female orgasm. Premature ejaculation then comes to be seen in a broader way, which does not concern only the man, but which involves the way the couple relates.

It involves the respect and complicity of this couple. And above all, it stops being analyzed only in the context of penetration.

And when we get out of the paradigm that sex is just penetration, thousands of sexual possibilities open up, of expanding pleasure. The orgasmic potential comes out of genital exclusivity and expands. And that goes for both men and women.

And this is where Tantra comes in. The so-called "tantric sex" is nothing more than the expansion of sex far beyond penetration. Discovering and exploring thousands of possibilities for connection and interaction. The discovery of dormant and neglected potentials by the immediate and primitive culture.

The Tantric View of Sex

Within the tantric view of sex and in practical courses on “tantric sex”, tantric massage and tantra for couples, the techniques that involve penetration are part of something like 5% of the contents. Ninety-five percent of everything that happens there, happens before penetration.

Often multiple, sequenced and very powerful orgasms happen without even penetration. For both men and women.

Why cure only premature ejaculation using drugs, ointments and the like when you can go much further? When you can have an enlarged view of the way you relate, the way you feel pleasure and the way you provide pleasure.

Can you learn new ways to balance your relationships and go deeper into more real, deep, loving and breaking relationships experiencing orgasms like you've never felt before?

Read also: How Tantric Massage Can Heal Your Relationships

If you would like to know more and get started in tantric practices, get to know the our free workshop on tantric sexuality. In it you will be able to know basic techniques to start your development today in this philosophy that can revolutionize your sex life.

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